You can’t live your life in hopes that everyone is going to like you, we all know that, but at the same time, as humans, we naturally want people to like us. But what if you’re doing things without realizing it that are making you unlikeable? Here are some of the most common things you may be doing that’s rubbing others the wrong way.
Regular bragging can be pretty obvious, you likely know when you are trying to show off or are saying things that come off as being self-centered, but humble bragging is a whole other ball game. For example, joking about how people recognize you in real life from social media, to show off just how popular you are or how many followers you have. People catch on to humble bragging, and you can’t mask bragging this way because they’ll see right through it.
2. Being too serious
No matter what your job is, your goals or your passions, being too serious and taking life too seriously makes it hard for people to really see the human side of you, which in turn, makes it hard to like you. Yes, there is a time and place for seriousness, but you can’t take life too seriously.
Likeable people can balance fun and seriousnesss, they get things done, but also can be personable and let things go. Do you notice people joking around and having fun with others but not you? Maybe it’s because they don’t feel they can have that sort of relationship with you.
We all are guilty of complaining about different things in our lives outside and inside of work, but complaining too much, especially to the same people, can be dangerous. You don’t want people to see you as being the person who is never happy and always complaining, and that can often come when you are always venting and complaining around the same people.
Start paying attention to how many negative things or complaints you are saying each day. If you notice that one of the first things that comes to mind is negative about a person or situation, this usually means other people have noticed too.
Being someone who talks about others behind their back is a dangerous act, and one that will likely make you less likeable and less trustworthy. If you are someone who acts like you like someone, and then behind your back talks about them to others in a negative way, how do you expect anyone to trust that you’re not doing the same with them? Soon you’ll realize that you’re pushing people away by doing this, so do yourself a favour, and keep these thoughts to yourself.
5. Not having an open mind
Closed-minded people don’t get very far in life. Open-minded people are approachable and more interesting to others. I mean, who wants to talk to someone who is so set in their ways, isn’t open to hearing out others or trying new things, and already has opinions on everything? In the workplace especially, being approachable is a big strength, it brings new ideas to the table and makes people feel they can ask for help. So quit passing judgment on everyone and their options and start with an open-mind that is ready to listen.
No one wants to be unlikeable, so start paying more attention to your actions that may be turning other people away from you.
About the Author
Lauren Marinigh is a Toronto-based online marketing and content development professional, who is completely addicted to traveling, puppies, and GIFs.